By Shaun Maslyk, CFP on February 15, 2023
Estimated reading time: 5 minutes

Emotional investing: How to make better decisions with your money

By Shaun Maslyk, CFP on February 15, 2023
Estimated reading time: 5 minutes

The advice “take the emotions out of investing” is impossible to follow. Read about why and what you can do to avoid reactive decisions.

A mom sits at a computer with her toddler, looking at her investing accounts for her family as a result of emotional investing.

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Welcome to “A Rich Life,” a new column by Shaun Maslyk, Certified Financial Planner and Certified Financial Behaviour Specialist, where he explores how we can use financial psychology to understand our real-life money stories.

You’ve heard this before; the traditional investment advice to “take the emotions out of investing.” But emotions are a natural factor for all our decisions, including the financial ones. And how we feel is an integral part of human physiology. We can’t just “take them out” of our decision process.

If you’ve struggled to remove emotions from your decision making, it’s OK. I have good news: That makes you human—and that’s a very good thing for your money.

Check out Julie’s story.

How a mom checked in on her emotional investing

Julie, a 37-year-old working mother, was feeling immense stress as she tried to save for her children’s future education. Despite her husband’s objections, she cut back on household expenses and reduced how much she was contributing to her retirement savings to put more toward her children’s education funds.

This resulted in fights with her husband, and an obsession with the education accounts. And Julie eventually recognized that her feelings about not being able to go to college herself drove her to make financial decisions that weren’t healthy for the entire family. She had to bring awareness to her fear to help her avoid making reactive decisions. Julie learned to soothe her fear by reminding herself that she is a loving mother, and that her own experience as a child will not automatically be the same for her children. She also met with a financial planner to develop a balanced plan.

All these actions help to put some time and space between the emotion and Julie’s emotional responses. She was surprised at how much better she felt just from recognizing, naming, and bringing awareness to the emotion that was driving her to save at all costs.

Money doesn’t have emotions—the people behind the dollars do

Money—think of the bills in your wallet and the dollars in your bank account—is a neutral object. Humans assign value to money in addition to its real-world worth. The emotions we associate with money and investing can be intense. That’s due to the implications money has on our lives, as I wrote in my last column “What’s Your Money Story?”

As FP Canada’s 2021 annual survey reveals, money is a top stressor in Canadians’ lives. Perhaps our lack of emotional literacy when it comes to our money is playing a key role. In fact, the avoidance of emotions can also lead to a lack of financial literacy and a reluctance to confront financial matters.

It’s important to recognize and acknowledge emotions as tools to understand the reasons behind our financial choices and why we invest the way we do. This recognition can help us to avoid making reactive decisions. By bringing awareness to present emotions, we can make informed decisions with our logical minds.

But as Julie discovered, emotional responses to money can result in poor financial decisions. For her it was obsessively saving and investing, but for others it could be missed payments or excessive spending.

Emotional cycles of investing

Common emotions linked with investing and finances can include: anxiety, excitement, fear, guilt, joy, relief, satisfaction shame and stress. Let’s look at some of them in more detail. Do any of these emotional cycles speak to you and how you invest?

Fear of not having enough money could lead to decisions based on panic rather than sound financial principles.
Greed can cause investors to focus on short-term gain over long-term returns.
Stress could impair our brain’s executive functions, causing us to avoid crucial financial tasks like budgeting and expense reviewing.
Joy can influence investors to make quick reactive financial decisions without considering consequences, potentially leading to overspending, taking out unnecessary debt or choosing poor investments.

How to make emotionally responsible investing decisions

It’s possible to recognize emotions and manage them to make thoughtful financial decisions. You want to be informed and thoughtful about your investments and your money. (For more, listen to my podcast with Dr. Melkumian, where we discuss how to recognize and manage our money and emotions.)

Here are some activities that can help you recognize money-related emotions:

Build a monthly budget and regularly track expenses to increase awareness of how emotions can drive spending habits.
Every day or once a week, give yourself the time to journal about your thoughts and feelings about your investments. This increases awareness around the emotional responses to financial outcomes.
When faced with a financial decision that results in intense feelings (positive or negative), practice meditation and deep breathing to manage responses to financial stress or emotional highs.
Every once and awhile, reflect on your past financial decisions to understand the emotional triggers you have when it comes to money and investing.
Consider talking to a qualified therapist to explore how your emotions are related to money and develop coping strategies.
Consider consulting with a financial planner for an objective perspective and help with logical financial decision-making.
Take charge of your financial education by researching the information given to you. Having an understanding of financial concepts will boost your financial awareness, capacity, and confidence, leading to better financial health.

By understanding our emotions, we can recognize when they are influencing our decisions.

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Shaun Maslyk is the host of the Most Hated F-Word Podcast, a show that explores the psychology of money and helps listeners understand their relationship with it. As a Certified Financial Planner and Certified Financial Behaviour Specialist, Shaun brings a unique perspective to the show, offering insights and advice on personal finance and financial well-being. If you found this article insightful, check out episode #20 of The Most Hated F-Word Podcast, “Financial Psychology, Emotions, Inner Money Critics and Finding Financial Peace.”

About Shaun Maslyk, CFP

Shaun Maslyk is a Certified Financial Planner and host of The Most Hated F-Word podcast. He integrates psychology and coaching to help people awaken their money stories.